Ladies Would You Date/Marry a Younger Man?
Hello lovvies, TGIF! Today let’s talk older women and younger men relationships…
As a woman dating or marrying a younger man is pretty much taboo in our culture , but celebrities like Darey Art Alade (whose wife Deola is 8 years older, they’ve been married 5 years and have 2 Children) and Peter Okoye of P-Square (whose girlfriend Lola Omotayo is about 6 years older, they’ve been together 6 years and they have a son and another on the way) have broken with tradition and embraced a trend which was been attributed to
I’ve asked my friends, and roughly 90percent say they would never entertain the thought of a younger guy (Naija girls) but it seems the men are more open (as long as the age difference isn’t more than 2 years and she doesn’t look older…LOL). I have a friend who is being actively pursued by a guy 2 years younger, this man treats her better than any of her exes ever have but she says she’s not going there cos of the age thing.
In our society it’s perfectly okay for a man to be with a woman decades younger, but when the roles are reversed the woman is called desperate and the man must be with her for her money.
So here’s what I want to know Ladies are you open to dating/marrying a younger man? what’s your age limit?
And this goes for the men to…would you date/marry an older woman? And what’s your age limit?
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tbh i won’t on either, date or marry. i want a man who will take care of me, dote on me, not the other way round i dont want 2 be anyones mother. and what happens when we get older he starts cheating on me with younger girls.
so no give me my older guys any day
IM A GUY. TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTION, I SAY NO
I CAN FUCK AN OLD CHICK ANY DAY ANY TIME. BUT TO MARRY NO WAY. WOMEN AGE FASTER THAN MEN. I DONT WANT A WOMAN THAT LOOKS OLDER THAN ME. LOOK AT DARE THE WIFE LOOKS LIKE HIS MOTHER. GOD FORBID I WANT A VERY YOUNG BEAUTIFUL WIFE. ANY MAN MARRYING AN OLD WOMAN IS MARRYING FOR MONEY JUST LIKE DARE AND PETER. THEIR OLD WOMEN HAVE HELPED THEM ADVANCE THEIR CAREER. DARE’S WIFE WAS A NTORIOUS BIG GIRL IN ABUJA, VERY RICH, SHE HELPED DARE WITH A LOT OF CONTRACTS. BUT HE SHOULDNT HAVE MARRIED HER SOMEONE LIKE HIM NEEDS A YOUNG GIRL. ME I CANT
naija people in general whether abroad or back home are very narrowminded we need to open our minds people. yes i would marry a younger guy as long as the age gap is not too big and he is mature..there are very many older guys 34 and upwards who behave and think for that matter like 19 year olds do as for me as long as he is mature and makes me happy we are good to go DON’T BLOCK YOUR DESTINY guys open your minds
hi Mimi,
thanks for that dear. I guess i find myself in such, though im a young man dating a lady quite older than I am and we are both happy. She says i behave like a 92 yr old man and happy for me.
We both love eachother and she respects me like her father.
Yes “older lady-Young Guy” relationship can work, pending on these factors: Respect, Love, etc..
We Africans can embrace it.!!
Pls say wat u knw artalade wife doesn’t luk older.though nt in support of younger man married 2 older woman.more importantly its abt ur happiness n nt wat pple say
We have become too hypocritical in our thinking that we are too quick to deny what we desire simply on the grounds of what others would think of us. The choice of a patner, whether older or younger should be personal and not a decision for others to make for us, if dating or marrying an older woman works for you so be it. What is the chances that marrying a younger woman would make your marriage work? I have dated an older lady and would tell you that I still regret not marrying her. It is not always about money, there is no relationship or marriage for that matter that is devoid of challenges, that is where the advantage of experience and maturity come in, perhaps an older lady might have it, but am not advocating for such relationships. We all need direction, sometimes an older lady might offer that direction. Let us not be fast to crusify Dareh and call his wife names, the question today is, is she a good wife to him? He alone can answer that question. Her past life should be left alone, if he had no problem with it, why should any other person. For guys that are in a relationship with an older woman, my advice is that you should be in it for the right reasons only and not just for moeny, but if it is for money, be clear and true to yourself. Am out.
i am e-hugging you right now!!! Thank you and more so because it is coming from a guy THANK YOU our society needs more thinkers like you!
me too! very well said Cal
God Bless you Cal.
Simple!!
E-hugs to you. RT@Mimi
age is just a number. If d guy/lady is a person u find fullfilment with then settle with him or her. marriage is not how far… but how well has both of u influenced ur life.
age is noting,even as am say this my girlfriends is 2 years older than me…more latest gist here at http://www.gistyinka.com
I used to say that i couldn’t a younger guy until fate dealt a wicked one on me. i dated a younger dude (2 years gap) a few months ago and the relationship lasted only a short while. summary is the guy just saw me as a bank account which he could drain whenever he pleased. right now, i think i’d rather not do younger dudes!!
hello Nkaytchee,
Its so unfortunate that the guy acted such.
My woman is financially buoyant than me, but i reject things from her even when im kinda broke.
So, its an individual personality issue.
Regards.
Nky’
Nkay…similar to me. I put my head down and dated someone three years younger. Also, he was so was so immature. Never again.
Based on timestamps I think you were the one who first posted this but it seems like others have grabbed it without crediting your site:
http://www.gistmania.com/talk/topic,131716.0.html
http://oluwafisayomi.blogspot.com/2012/09/as-woman-dating-or-marrying-younger-man.html#comment-form
Thanks Jummy, I struggle with this on a daily basis.
Blog thieves who just wait for you to post something they can copy to their site without giving you the writer any credit.
It gives me a migraine and at this point there isn’t a lot I can do about it…it’s the internet
Awww, what a pain! I guess you’ll just be flattered by their emulation then!
I just married a 24 year old man last summer. I’m 36. When he saw me for the first time his jaw hit the floor. His first thought was “There she is.” He knew he has just found his wife.
I on the other hand, took a while longer to come around, but a month later we kissed for the first time. That’s when it hit me. I was kissing the man I was meant for in this world. It felt so good. For a moment, we were in heaven. That’s when I knew.
It wasnt about younger or older for us. It shouldn’t be for anyone. Whomever you meet and fall for that’s great, but if you do go with a younger man don’t get angry about his youth while your completely excited about it. Don’t belittle your younger man. He’s not a child and you shouldn’t treat him like one. Treat him like a man.
I remember being his age and honestly I’m impressed. He’s doing better than I did. He’s got a great heart and he is commited to our marriage with a fervor of a man who could die a thousand deaths if we divorced.
You should go into a relationship like this asking yourself first what you want out of the relationship. Fling or forever? Do they want the same? Match same goals and check personality compatibility then treat your relationship like you would any other but work harder at it. Do it because we forget to sometimes. Do it and you should have as great of a relationship or better as everyone elses.
Forget props, i’m just happy for you that you’re both happy with each other, which is all that matters. Anytime you’ve been with an older guy who gave you grief, did the world console you???
I’d not look out for younger guys, cos yes, in my mind, younger guys are immature. But i’ve met a guy 4yrs younger than me, whom I didn’t believe was his age cos he rolls with people 7yrs older than I am, and thinks likewise. That being said, my boyfriend at the time was 4years older than me, and boy, could he be childish with no effort!
Kudos dear… *thumbs up*
Of course someone is most probably going to be less mature but its not the rule. Men from the age of 21 and up are capable of a lot more than our insecure minds tell us.
Also, I met a nurse who was interested in dating younger men, but her kids were about the age she wanted to date. She didn’t want to date one of her childrens friends. I told her to go find her bf in a different town. She loved it.
Whereas I believe I am a gorgeous woman for my age I cant say I dont look in the mirror and gasp when I see a new grey hair, but I gasp quietly. I do it because men are more attracted to confidence.
I didn’t stop dating younger men just because it didn’t work out with one guy. I wouldve missed out if I did.
Basically what I’m trying to say is stop reading those condescending magazine articles and listen to your heart. You dont have to be a desperate lady like sex and the city and he doesn’t have to be like Bill and Ted’s Excellent Adv. Every person is unique.
Love has no boundary in as much there is a connection btw both gender. Age is just a number and some people even look younger than their normal age, so why criticizing people felt in love in those circumstances?.
Though, im a guy and i had never found myself into such category but i follow the footstep of my religion into details, i have never come across a situation whereby any scripture speculates on younger ladies marries to older men and vice versa, the most important thing is love bcos it prevails over all things.
That is why we see some white folks married to blacks despite the rejection from family members, intertribal marriage etc which might be an easier thing mere looking at it whereas it is very difficult to integrate two cultures into one but the love btw those people nullified any obstacle or hinderance that might come on their way.
Why wont you get your info right? I know the couple personally and the age difference is not as much as u have written. You bloggers sure know how to spread false gist. Tufiakwa
Anon, the point is age doesn’t matter. Do they have enough in common is the real question? Are they both mature enough to realize how much they both have to grow up to appreciate each other bc he’s younger?
Those two basic things said, there is nothing like being with someone who has a body and soul you fit perfectly with. Your mind takes over your life filled with thoughts constantly of that one person.
“I just knew” is said most commonly among successful longterm relationships. “I can’t remember what my life was like before I met them” is another one. We should be looking and waiting for that one person that has the combination to our heart. Only one person really has it. It’s the love of your life. When I found out mine was only 24 I under no circumstances backed away from him. I waited all my life for him. It’s him in that body. That’s my soulmate. Bottom line. That’s the way it should be for everyone.
By the way Tricia make sure your computer srppouts more than you already have and make sure to check to see if it has to been installed in pairs. What brand and model of computer do you have?
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