This 18 year old man’s mom has just disowned him for wearing makeup.
Over the weekend the Morehouse College, Atlanta freshman – Jauan Durbin, tweeted a screenshot of a text conversation showing his mother’s response to him wearing a full face of makeup.
She wrote, “I do not approve of this bullshyt, [What the hell] is wrong with you? I am so disappointed. You are a male. [Why the hell] do you have on eyelashes, eyebrows and makeup.”
“I’m completely done,” she concluded. “OK,” he responded.
He captioned the tweet and picture,
This hurts. It really does. But I’m going to live my truth until the day I die.
The post went viral, getting over 5,000 retweets and 14,000 favorites in the days since it was first posted.
The beat face photos were taken backstage at the Miss Maroon and White 2017 Pageant, where Durbin was assisting. His friend had offered to do Durbin’s makeup. In an interview, Durbin said he had never had his makeup done in this way.
I’m a model, but I had never worn a full face with lashes, it’s only been minimal to be camera-ready.
Durbin then posted the picture on Twitter. His scholarship program mentor then put the photo on Facebook, tagging Durbin. Someone then took a screenshot of the picture and sent it to his mother. Then she sent him the text calling him out.
Durbin says he posted the conversation with his mom to let others struggling with parental acceptance know they’re not alone.
I didn’t post the original screenshot to put my mom out there, it was more so that I knew there were other people out there going through the same situation that I’m going through and many don’t know if there’s a way out of it. So I wanted to affirm them with my comments attached to the screenshot. That you should always live in your truth no matter if your parents don’t agree with it. You seek validation from your parents, you try to live up to their expectations, but sometimes their expectations are unrealistic.
Durbin says his mother has a rigid sense of gender norms and expectations. She has not communicated with her son since sending him the text.
Since his mother first discovered the viral tweet, he and his mother, who he’s described as having a rigid sense of gender norms, have not communicated.
In light of his new found fame Durbin has a message for the parents.
It’s not about support. It’s about affirmation. Loving your child because it’s your child regardless of the circumstances. I would encourage the parents to sit down with their child and ask questions. Even if you don’t necessarily agree with them wearing makeup, just know that something that makes them happy should make you happy.